Also, for me at least, it was realizing the ugly truth that ...
the thing where they make other people's choices and values bad in order to make themselves look good. I'd say, in fact, that they're representative of people who are placed in cross cultural situations.
I understand that people feel that if both people grow up in the states they will have a better understanding of each other.
That doesn't mean that people from India/Pakistan/Bangladesh are unmarriageable.
They experience the world and the people in it within a very narrow and specific frame of reference.
And I had friends in college who created their own "fraternity" complete with sweatshirts called Phi Omega Beta.
The first time I really traveled outside of the US was to go to a summer school program in England. To allow yourself to experience something different?
I got an interesting e-mail from a reader the other day. A." is a Bangladeshi American and somehow we arrived on the topic of marriage. It's like they think they are better than those who are immigrating from the subcontinent.
It's how abcds (I know it's not the best term:)) feel about fobs. I really wish people would just understand that we are all human.