In part: "Traditional Asians pride themselves on their marriages, families, children, and continuation of the family lineage so when their sons/daughters begin dating someone they don't approve of, it's going to a difficult process.Usually, one side or both sets of parents are dead set against them dating their significant other.Statistically, Asian men rank lowest compared to other men when it comes to receiving matches and messages from women on dating sites.
You focus on your own victimization in Japan, but can't can't generalize to the victimization of non-whites in the US. No one in these cities is calling Asians "foreigners" to their face at their place of employment by other colleagues; asking them how much they make and telling them they should not make more than X amount because they're "gaijin." Nor are they walking down the street and being spit on in the face and told to "Go home! I've seen too much, been to too many places, and experienced too many types of people. But when you move to a country where you are no longer the majority, you become the target of racism. But to non-whites in the US, your experiences in Japan are their experiences here.
Blogger, fashion photographer, and social critic Eliza Romero goes even further by calling out Asian women on this popular subtopic of the White Male/Asian Female (WM/AF) dynamic in her recent blog, To further complicate the problem, as online dating becomes more the norm than the exception, the image of the Asian man as emasculated, lacking confidence, nerdy, and asexual will be heightened.
Unless, women can actually sit down and have real interactions with Asian men, America will continue to perpetuate these same, sad caricatures of the Asian man. The reason I don't and haven't dated Asian men is because Asian men will almost always succumb to their Asian cultural pressures.
Unlike your first commenter, he did not dump me for an Asian. While both our parents were concerned about difficulties navigating 2 very different cultures, our Catholic values meant we had a large base of values in common and his experience growing up with a Buddhist mother and Catholic father gave him the knowledge of how to allow for differences while coming together.
In this, I had the benefit of coming from a large extended family that is half conservative, half liberal and a mix of blue and white collar, poor to extremely wealthy. They might look the other way for a daughter, but for their son, no way, especially if we're talking marriage. I've never met her father because he's racist and refuses to accept the marriage. The father didn't even marry Japanese, my wife's mother is Korean!