With each new developmental stage, they have new questions and worries. D., a leading divorce researcher and coauthor of What About the Kids?That's because divorce plants a persistent fear in children, no matter how old they are: "If one parent can leave another, it's only natural for a child to wonder, 'How do I know they won't leave me? Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce.However, our children go to a very small religious school; this is not something to be taken lightly.So I casually mentioned that it was nice their dad had a grown-up he could spend time with and left it at that. I really wanted to say "Is she completely stupid for wanting to date him?In almost every picture, a heart was flying out of a dog's chest with tiny red teardrops. "Bleeding hearts."Seven years later, I'd like to say my kids have adjusted.Jack and I have a supportive, flexible arrangement.
The kids loved Jack; they loved me; they loved our family. Months later, I was bragging to my sister about how well the kids were doing, and she started flipping through a stack of Maggie's drawings.
He sees them at least three times a week, usually more, and is a totally involved father.
But as much as Jack and I would like to see our divorce as past tense, it's a permanent state to my kids.
No matter who you are, you dread it when you find out your ex is with someone else.
It doesn’t even matter the reason why you are not together anymore, you still have that little tiny bit of jealously, anger, (insert whatever emotion in here you want).