Click here to get to know Beth, then get in touch with her by sending your question to: [email protected] Beth: As I’m sure you’re well aware, the holidays are coming up.
I’ve been divorced for a couple of years and while the dating scene has had its challenges, I’m currently involved with a gorgeous woman. I don’t want to scare her off with anything too serious.
If You've Been Dating Six Months Or Fewer, Exclusively So you're a couple, albeit a relatively new one.
Ask early on how they want to celebrate, and plan accordingly. In addition: Some sort of celebration or token of your own is required here.
Mike Hi Mike, Since your email is such a timely one, you skip right to the front of the email line. But watch out at recess, because some of the guys you skipped are probably going to be looking to give you a face wash in the snow. Okay, so what gift should you stay away from if you aren’t ready to get serious yet? So then there’s a lovely gold pendant tarnishing away in a velvet-lined box until 40 years from now when one of her grandkids asks her about it and she croaks, “” And then the grandkids are distracted by finding the potty-mouth jar so once again the pendant is forgotten. You can also get more personal with her specific interests or goals–golf lessons, glass-blowing classes, a ride in a hot air balloon. I also think they’re an easier gift to give overall, since you know what your partner’s interests are better than you know whether they’ll like that random sweater in that specific fit, in that specific material, in that specific color, in that specific size. If you put a bit of thought into it (no December 24 shopping), and get her something you truly believe suits her personality/tastes/interests, you’ll make the right choice.Sure, it's possible they're just not big birthday people, in which case it's perfectly fine to spend the day together without making a huge production out of the birthday.But beware of people who expect you to make big plans for their birthdays too early on in the relationship -- this screams high maintenance, and besides, don't they have friends to do this? If You've Been Dating Three Months or Fewer, Not Exclusively Same rules apply as above in terms of party behavior: if you go to a celebration, be prepared to buy drinks and go home together.If It's Your Birthday As psyched as you are about being in a relationship on your birthday, don't put too much pressure on your newly minted significant other to make the day special.Remember, it's their first time going through the birthday gauntlet with you, so this one is mostly about setting the tone.A card is necessary, a token is nice but not mandatory.