On the other hand, dating in the United States is so casual that people will even date as a way of getting to know someone better.If they click with the person, they simply go on more dates.On the other hand, American families are much less pushy on this subject.Related: What is a Sheng Nu: China's Leftover Women When someone from China is dating another person, they will think further into the future than an Westerners.Most Westerners and Chinese people do want to settle, with marriage as the end goal, but Westerner are usually more open to that option later down their life.Therefore, Americans think about marriage as an event that can happen later down the road.
Many say it reflects the “Giant Infant” culture described by psychologist Wu Zhihong in her acclaimed book to be somewhat progressive.
One is stuck in conservative values (parents wanting virgins and baby makers), and another has become more open-minded (like the 23-year-old guy who wanted to defy his mother and choose the 40-year-old divorcee.) Some viewers have criticized the show for being overly dramatic and suspect it is scripted, which the producer denied in several interviews.
As a Chinese woman who myself has grown up in this divided time—caught in between conservative and progressive China—I found the show almost too real to the point that it’s painful to watch.
” They also brutally rejected a 40-year-old divorcee and single mom.
The parents on the show grilled bachelorettes with questions like “Can you do housework?