“The Loser” typically wants to move in with you or marry you in less than four weeks or very early in the relationship. In the beginning of the relationship, you will be exposed to “witnessed violence” – fights with others, threats toward others, angry outbursts at others, etc. You will see and witness this temper – throwing things, yelling, cursing, driving fast, hitting the walls, and kicking things.That quickly serves to intimidate you and fear their potential for violence, although “The Loser” quickly assures you that they are angry at others or situations, not at you.In an effort to provide some warning about these very damaging individuals, this paper will outline a type of individual commonly found in the dating scene, a male or female labeled “The Loser”.“The Loser” is a type of partner that creates much social, emotional and psychological damage in a relationship.“The Loser” has permanent personality characteristics that create this damage.These are characteristics that they accept simply as the way they are and not a problem or psychological difficulty.We all know to avoid people that appear insane or abusive and not select them as a dating partner.
This is the “honeymoon phase” – where they catch you and convince you that they are the best thing that ever happened to you.
One of the things that might attract you to “The Loser” is how quickly he or she says “I Love You” or wants to marry or commit to you.
Typically, in less than a few weeks of dating you’ll hear that you’re the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you.
At first, you will be assured that they will never direct the hostility and violence at you – but they are clearly letting you know that they have that ability and capability – and that it might come your way.
Later, you fear challenging or confronting them – fearing that same temper and violence will be turned in your direction. Killing Your Self-Confidence “The Loser” repeatedly puts you down.