Someone who asks in a way I feel is invasive, demanding or not-listening still would not make me feel closer--again, whether it's this list of questions or any other. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common. It would depend on how the questions were asked and how our discussion of them went--if they ask in a genuinely interested, open-to-listening way, I'd feel closer, but I'd feel closer if they asked any questions in that way. I think that questions like these can make our time together much more interesting and memorable, and people don't always have great conversational skills these days to rely on. The questions will be useful as I restart my social life after a 25 year hiatus. How a person answers these questions would provide a shortcut to knowing a bit about their personal morals and motives which would either, implicitly, quickly put up walls or take them down. But it took us much longer than 45 minutes, which is why we only got halfway. However, he is very willing to push himself to open up. If we have a lull and I want to stir the pot, I'll start a discussion around it. Like one of the previous writers I just came across it and plan to print it. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know. Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life. I believe that is best left to later in the relationship discussions. Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's? How do you feel about your relationship with your mother? Complete this sentence "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..." 27. The one that stood out most was the question of which family member's death would disturb you most.Or, try the sincere approach..."this is something that is important to me, can we spend a few minutes each night/week/month sharing our answers" Give him the opportunity to "pass" on questions that make him to uncomfortable.I don't know you or your husband, but I do know that there are NO men that have "no emotions", just many that that lack practice expressing them, for many societal and cultural reasons and both men and women tend to follow an unwritten, gender script, in their conversations that keep these patterns reoccurring.
If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? Take four minutes and tell you partner your life story in as much detail as possible. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be? If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? Is there something that you've dreamt of doing for a long time? One or two questions per get together should work, more if I'm really interested in developing an intimate relationship with the man. Having that insight would allow trust to be initiated and built upon and lead to quicker and more self exposure.
These questions only take about 45 minutes to discuss—and they almost always make two people feel better about each other and want to see each other again, according to social psychology researcher Arthur Aron of the Interpersonal Relationships Lab at Stony Brook University in New York, who published his results in "The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness" in (1997). Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you're going to say? Now, I'm no psychologist, but as an experienced wife and nagger, I can tell you that every single item on this list would elicit the "yes dear, whatever you think" response, followed by the "I have to go to the bathroom" response, in as little as three minutes, and that within the hour, we'd probably be arguing at the top of our lungs. thanks anyway, and good luck with your facebook campaign!
You can try these questions with a date, but they're not necessarily only applicable to fostering romance. :) Helen Hi Helen, I can't argue with you that many men would not have a negative reaction to 36 questions, but not all are that way.
The questions were developed as part of a scientific study intended to establish that intimacy can be developed quickly.
What roles do love and affection play in your life? Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. I think you'd need to pick and choose among these questions and see how the conversation went.