Include that, and the ladies may think that’s all you care about. A study from Ok Cupid found the bright light from flashes add seven years to your face, drawing eyes to the very wrinkles and blemishes you’re hoping no one will notice.Instead, take profile photos in the late afternoon in soft, natural lighting—study participant rated those as the most attractive.And consider borrowing a high-end camera with an interchangeable lens instead of using your phone.Erase these from your online vocabulary: ur, r, u, ya, and cant (without the apostrophe).According to Ok Cupid, messages with those “words” get replies less than 10% of the time (ouch). You’re better off spelling things out like a grown-ass man.Ok Cupid discovered that messages with those words receive responses 25% of the time or less.They also deem you as less trustworthy and less socially attractive; so, you'll be seeing far fewer messages in your inbox.
But I needed to be very discreet, because my family life makes me happy and I didn’t want to change anything to it.That’s because focusing on the physical makes a woman feel you’re not interested in getting to know the real her, explains Spira. “Mention something else you admired about her profile,” suggests Spira.“Take your relationship from online to offline after a few digital exchanges,” recommends Spira.I’ve met many charming men who have been very nice to me.I had a relationship with one of them for over a year.The no-nos of picking up women in bars are fairly obvious. Online dating, on the other hand, is a bit more nuanced.