” and there is always the chance they discover they don’t have that much in common after all.
Ultimately, boyd says, parents do kids a disservice by telling them all strangers are bad.
” to “Does the school he says he attends actually exist? ” Once you do the background work, it’s ideal if parents accompany their teen to meet the other person, says boyd.
For teens, it’s a matter of finding out, “Are they who they say they are?
From the time kids are toddler age, parents help in forging their friendships, whether it’s play dates at the park or in a toy-strewn living room.
So when your teen tells you they want to take an Internet friendship — with someone they’ve only met virtually through social media or video games — to the next level by having actual human contact, it raises the question: Should you facilitate the meeting or fret about it?
“I would hear him talking to her and he would laugh and laugh,” Spark told TODAY Moms.
“She seemed fine, everything he told me about her seemed fine.” When Amie and Aidan met in person at a hotel restaurant, both of their mothers were there.
"Parents should take an active role in teaching and helping their kids understand what normal dating behaviours are." By understanding what "healthy" dating is at this age, parents can set limits and protect their child.Still it would be fun to have Aidan with me at the literary festival. Parents, who tend to be less comfortable with social media and other online technologies than teens, can’t help but fear that when online relationships evolve to in-person interactions, they are inherently dangerous or risky because they involve “strangers.” “As parents, we have a responsibility to protect our children.When I agree to Aidan’s request, it’s with an awareness of how questionable my judgment sounds. You magnify that with a whole set of anxiety-driven fears that are produced by the media,” says boyd.Spark, a professor at Colby College in Waterville, Maine, described her reluctance and ultimate acquiescence: My “creep” feelers went out.I flashed on stories of predators who entrap young adults through false IDs, of adults who imagine they are IMing with a pretty Russian girl, only to discover they are corresponding with a robot, eager less for love than a credit card number. ” Teens and parents have different views of online friendships because they have different ideas of what socializing should look like, says danah boyd (who doesn't capitalize her name), author of “It’s Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens.” More From Today: Should Kids Wear School Uniforms?“Not only do you both like to blog about fashion but then you discover you both like One Direction and you both play basketball, and, hey, my school team is playing your school team so let’s meet up in person.” Spark’s son Aidan bonded with his online friend in a similar manner.